What is God’s View of Marriage

Our modern and civilized culture has developed multiple views on marriage. Some scorn marriage as a dusty old social construct that is useless in modern society. Some still find it useful if not optional. Others view marriage as a binding contract but one that does have an exit clause whereby two parties enter into a provisional agreement with one another before a judge or other authority.
 
It is in this atmosphere that we should ask the question: What does God think of marriage? To obtain an answer, let’s consider the following biblical realities.
 
1. Consider that God is the one who created marriage in the first place. In Genesis 2, God saw that it was not good for man to be alone. Yes, even though the man (Adam) had all he needed in the way of food and material things, and even though he was able to have a relationship with the almighty God, he had no one with whom to share his life. So, God made the man a mate. He fashioned her out of Adam’s own flesh and bone. As soon as Adam laid eyes on her, he knew that in some miraculous and inexplicable way, God had made her just for him. Then God looked upon these two, standing there naked and unashamed gazing into one another’s eyes and declared, “for this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.
 
Don’t you see? Marriage was not created by society. It was not created by the courts or the church. Marriage was created by God as a gift for mankind so that all would be able to live a full life and share that full life with one another. 
 
2. Consider the first commandment of God. No, I don’t mean the first of the Ten Commandments. I mean the first commandment ever! After creating and blessing Adam and Eve, He commanded them, “be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over [it]…” (Genesis 1:28). The only way for them to keep this command was through marriage. Through committed marriage between men and women, mankind would be able to multiply. They would have children in a stable home and train them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Those children would then leave their fathers and mothers and be joined to their own wives and husbands who would then proceed to live out what they had learned from their parents. God’s design was that this glorious event would be repeated over and over again until all the earth was filled with human beings and the whole creation was brought into submission under the one true God, and in them, He would be most glorified. 
 
Now, God gave us marriage to fulfill us as individuals. That has already been communicated above. However, we must not forget that this was not the only reason God gave us marriage. He gave us marriage that He might be glorified through us and through our commitments to one another. 
 
3. Consider that His covenant relationship with Israel is built on the metaphor of marriage. When God made His promise to Abram, it was a promise of marriage. God was promising to join himself to Abram and bless him and make him a blessing. This is a covenant that He kept even though they did not. In Jeremiah 31:32, he says of the people of Israel, “I was their husband.” Also, in the book of Hosea, God called his prophet to marry a promiscuous woman in order to demonstrate the promiscuity that Israel was living in with their idolatry (Hosea 1:2). He saw Israel as his wife.
 
4. Consider that He calls the church the bride of Christ. In Ephesians 5, Paul describes the “mystery” of the relationship between a husband and wife. Then in verse 32, he writes, “this mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.” That’s right, the church is the bride… not the servant, not the handmaiden, not the child, but the bride of Christ. Indeed, all of redemptive history is building up to one glorious and enormous wedding like none other in history (Rev. 19:1-10).
 
By these few considerations (there are many others) we conclude that God has a high view of marriage, and it follows that we should hold the same high view.