The difference in failing and being a failure.

Everyone has experienced it. You are rocking along, walking with the Lord, doing great, and things could not be better. Then, BAM! Life happens. There is a job change and a relocation, and you get out of fellowship with other believers. Or you discover your spouse has been unfaithful, or you mess up and find your-own-self in an improper relationship with someone. Or you mistreat a person you love. In general, you find that you have failed.
Once I heard a preacher say in a sermon, “The devil is the most passionate preacher of grace when he’s tempting one to sin, and he’s the most passionate preacher of condemnation after one falls into sin.” This is so true. We fall into sin believing that we will be okay, that God will understand, that we can be forgiven. Then, after we fall, we condemn ourselves as an irreconcilable, unredeemable, and miserable failure.
In the season following a moral failure, it is extremely important to check your thoughts of condemnation with Scripture. Is it fair to label yourself as a failure just because you failed? Is what you did so horrible that you are unredeemable and irreconcilable? Are you really disqualified to be a child of God? Is there another way to think about your situation and what you have done?
Scripture teaches us that there was only ever one human being who had the ability to live life flawlessly—Jesus. Jesus was able to live life flawlessly because He was born the son of God and born without sin. All other human beings were born the sons and daughters of Adam with an inherited nature bent toward sin and failure. We were all doomed to sin by the very nature of our birth. (Romans 5:12-14)
When you back up and look at scripture, you find that failing doesn’t make you a failure. It makes you a human being. If you could live life flawlessly, there would have been no need for Jesus to come live a perfect life, die on the cross, and be resurrected. He came because God loved you even while knowing that you would fail. (Romans 5:6-11)
Scripture teaches that no sin is unforgivable if it is confessed and repented. He cleanses sin, by His grace, through faith in the person and work of Jesus Christ as a free gift to those who trust in Him. He casts sins “as far as the east is from the west” (Psalms 103:12). God has never done wrong. He is completely just and faithful to His promise. As such, His justice and faithfulness call for Him to forgive and cleanse the confessed and repentant (1 John 1:9).
Scripture also teaches that those who receive Jesus as Savior are born again as children of God and by the will of God (John 1:12-13). They are adopted into His household with the legal rights of inheritance to His Kingdom (Romans 8:16-17). Nothing can undo what He has accomplished by His great love for those who trust in Him (Romans 8:31-39). Certain failure may disqualify a person from certain areas of service in the kingdom, but no failure disqualifies a true Christian from receiving His love. No Christian is ever disqualified from being a child of God.
When Jesus is a priest whose holiness, and unstained innocence allows Him to save “to the uttermost those who draw near to God through Him… He always lives to make intercession for them” (Hebrews 7:24-26). By his great mercy, they are “born again into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, into an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading…” (1 Peter 1:3-4).
If you have failed, then the point is to acknowledge your failure, but don’t beat yourself up. Take your failure to the foot of the cross and leave it there. The cross of Christ is where Christian failures die and are forgotten. Then go pay a visit to the empty tomb. The empty tomb is the place were believers are assured that they have life. Understand that God is a master at taking the mess we make and turning it around for His glory honor and praise.

All that is required for His redemption is repentance. What does it mean to repent? To repent is to ask for forgiveness and determine to do your best, in the strength He provides, not to make the same mistake again. To be sure, you will fail again, but prayerfully you won’t fail in the same way twice.