Learning to Live With Her in and Understanding Way

I met my wife 17 years ago. We have been madly in love almost since that very day. We have learned so much about each other and about doing life together. Every day seems to carry a new lesson.
 
I received a fresh lesson this past weekend. I asked her on a date. Yes, you read that right. She excitedly said yes. I was thrilled! I wanted this date to be different. I was going to really out do myself, so I decided that we would, in lieu of dinner and a movie, do dinner and a jet ski. Yes, you read that right as well.
 
Dinner was fantastic. We treated ourselves spending an inordinate amount of money, but it was just fine considering that it had been a while since we had indulged in such a treat. Then, we went down to the beach and rented a jet ski. Once again we spent a lot of money, but this was going to be the date to top all dates. We decided to rent only one machine, so we could ride together. It was going to be romantic.
 
All was going wonderfully until we climbed aboard the machine. Every male under the age of 70 understands what a jet ski is designed to do—mainly to go really fast and do donuts on the water. God gave his prized creatures jet skis and big waves to satisfy their heart’s longing to soar above the surf.
 
After about one minute on the machine, it became clear that God had not revealed this little nugget to the girl that he created bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. I totally misread the look of sheer terror on her face. I thought it was like, you know when you ride a rollercoaster; you are having a blast, but you look terrified. Little did I know, she definitely was not “having a blast.”
 
It was not until the thing tipped over and delivered us into the warm salty waters of the gulf, that I started to realize that she was not having a good time. No worries, I thought, now she sees that falling off is not as bad as she feared. But then we tipped over a second time, and she gave full vent to what she thought about me, the jet ski, the sea water, the jet ski rental place, the sun, the moon, the stars… you get the picture.
 
She was ready to go to the shore and leave me to ride the evil contrivance by myself, but I was eager to salvage the date and more than that to make the woman I love happy. So, for the last thirty minutes, I drove the ski like a man three times my age.
 
It was on about the third turtle-paced lap around the boundary area that it happened. As we were on a south heading, I peek around to look at her. The sunset was reflecting off one side of her smiling face, and the light of the almost full moon shined on the other. She did not have to say it. The look in her eyes expressed just how deeply in love she is with me.
 
Here is the lesson, men: Peter, who was a happily married man, nailed it when he wrote, “husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life…” (1 Peter 3:7). If you truly love your wife, then you will be understanding of her. Even when she is unreasonably terrified of things you find amusing, you will show honor to her. She is your mate and heir with you of the grace of life. You were meant to enjoy sharing your lives together as you both prepare for the bliss of heaven.
 
No matter how right you are, when you insist on your own way, you cause her to feel scared and insecure. Her fear and insecurity will affect both of you. She will be terrified, and you will be miserable. However, if you will be understanding… if you will just slow down, then you will be the thrill of her life. She will be happy. You will be happy, and the two of you will be able to show the world the happiness found in sacrificial love.